Many people consider committing suicide at some point in their lives.
If you’re having suicidal thoughts, know that you’re not alone. You should also
know that feeling suicidal isn’t a character flaw, and it doesn’t mean you’re
crazy or weak. It only signifies that you’re experiencing more pain or sadness than
you can cope with right now.
In the moment, it may seem as though your unhappiness will never end. But
it’s important to realize that with help, you can overcome suicidal feelings.
Seek medical help immediately if
you’re considering acting on suicidal thoughts. If you aren’t near a
hospital, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
at 800-273-8255. They have trained staff available to speak to you 24 hours a
day, seven days a week.
Coping with Suicidal Thoughts
Remember that problems are temporary, but suicide is permanent. Taking
your own life is never the right solution to any challenge you may be facing. Give
yourself time for the circumstances to change and for the pain to subside. In
the meantime, you should take the following steps when you’re having suicidal
Eliminate access to lethal methods of suicide
Get rid of any firearms, knives, or dangerous medications if you worry
that you might act on suicidal thoughts.
Take medications as directed
Some anti-depressant medications can increase the risk of having
suicidal thoughts, especially when you first start taking them. You should
never stop taking your medications or change your dosage unless your doctor
tells you to do so. Your suicidal feelings may become worse if you suddenly
stop taking your medications. You may also experience withdrawal symptoms. If
you’re experiencing negative side effects from the medication you’re currently
taking, speak with your doctor about other options.
Avoid drugs and alcohol
It may be tempting to turn to
illegal drugs or alcohol during challenging times. However, doing so can make suicidal
thoughts worse. It’s critical to avoid these substances when you’re feeling
hopeless or thinking about suicide.
No matter how bad your situation may seem, know that there are ways of
dealing with the issues you face. Many people have experienced suicidal
thoughts and survived, only to be very thankful later. There is a good chance
that you’re going to live through your suicidal feelings, no matter how much
pain you may be experiencing right now. Give yourself the time you need and
don’t try to go it alone.
Talk to someone
You should never try to manage suicidal feelings on your own. Professional
help and support from loved ones can make it easier to overcome any challenges
that are causing suicidal thoughts. There are also numerous organizations and
support groups that can help you cope with suicidal feelings. They may even
help you recognize that suicide isn’t the right way to deal with stressful life
Pay attention to warning signs
Work with your doctor or therapist to learn about the possible triggers
for your suicidal thoughts. This will help you recognize the signs of danger
early and decide what steps to take ahead of time. It’s also helpful to tell
family members and friends about the warning signs so they know when you may
The Risk of Suicide
According to Suicide
Awareness Voices of Education, suicide is one of the leading causes of
death in the United States. It takes the lives of approximately 38,000
Americans each year.
There’s no single reason why someone may try to take their own life.
However, certain factors can increase the risk. Someone may be more likely to
attempt suicide if they have a mental health disorder. In fact, over
90 percent of people who commit suicide have a mental illness at the time
of their death. Depression is the top risk factor, but many other mental health
disorders can contribute to suicide, including bipolar disorder and
Aside from mental illnesses, several risk factors may contribute to
thoughts of suicide. These risk factors include:
- substance abuse
- family history of suicide
- poor job security or low levels of job
- history of being abused or witnessing continuous
- being diagnosed with a serious medical
condition, such as cancer or HIV
- being socially isolated or a victim of bullying
- being exposed to suicidal behavior
People at a higher risk for suicide are:
- people over age 45
- Caucasians, American Indians, or Alaskan Natives
Men are more likely to attempt suicide than women, but women are more
prone to having suicidal thoughts. In addition, older men and women are more
likely to attempt suicide than young men and women.
Possible Causes of Suicide
Researchers don’t know exactly why some people develop suicidal
thoughts. They suspect that genetics may offer some clues. A higher incidence
of suicidal thoughts has been found among people with a family history of
suicide. But studies haven’t yet confirmed a genetic link.
Aside from genetics, life challenges can cause some people to have
suicidal thoughts. Going through a divorce, losing a loved one, or having
financial troubles may instigate a depressive episode. This can lead people to
begin contemplating a “way out” from the negative thoughts and feelings.
Another common trigger for suicidal thoughts is the feeling of being
isolated or not being accepted by others. Feelings of isolation can be caused
by sexual orientation, religious beliefs, and gender identity. These feelings
often become worse when there’s a lack of help or social support.
The Effect of Suicide on Loved Ones
Suicide takes a toll on everyone in the victim’s life, with aftershocks
being felt for many years. Guilt and anger are common emotions, as loved ones often
wonder what they might have done to help. These feelings may plague them for
the rest of their lives.
Even though you may feel alone right now, know that there are many
people who can support you during this challenging time. Whether it’s a close
friend, family member, or doctor, talk to someone you trust. This person should
be willing to listen to you with compassion and acceptance. If you don’t feel
like talking about your problems with someone you know, call the National
Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255. All calls are anonymous and
there are counselors available at all times.
Getting Help for Suicidal Thoughts
When you meet with a doctor about your condition, you’ll find a compassionate
person whose primary interest is helping you. Your doctor will ask you about
your medical history, family history, and personal history. They’ll also ask
you about your suicidal thoughts and how often you experience them. Your
responses can help them determine possible causes for your suicidal feelings.
Your doctor may run certain tests if they suspect that a mental illness
or medical condition is causing your suicidal thoughts. The test results can
help them pinpoint the exact cause and determine the best course of treatment.
If your suicidal feelings can’t be explained by a health problem, your
doctor may refer you to a therapist for counseling. Meeting with a therapist on
a regular basis allows you to openly express your feelings and discuss any
problems you may be having. Unlike friends and family, your therapist is an
objective professional who can teach you effective strategies for coping with
suicidal thoughts. There’s also a certain degree of safety when you speak to a
mental health counselor. Since you don’t know them, you can be honest about your
feelings without fears of upsetting anyone.
While occasional thoughts of escaping life are part of being
human, serious suicidal thoughts need treatment. If you’re currently thinking
about suicide, get help immediately.
Find a Doctor
If you’re having suicidal thoughts, it’s important to first promise
yourself that you won’t do anything until you seek help. Many people have
experienced suicidal thoughts and survived, only to be very thankful later.
Make sure to talk to someone if you’re having trouble coping with
suicidal thoughts on your own. By seeking help, you can start to realize that
you aren’t alone and that you can get through this difficult time.
It’s also important to speak with your doctor if you suspect depression
or another mental illness is contributing to your suicidal feelings. Your
doctor can prescribe treatment and refer you to a licensed counselor who can
help you work through the challenges of your condition. Through therapy and
medication, many formerly suicidal women and men have been able to get past
suicidal thoughts and live full, happy lives.
You Asked, We Answered
- How can I help someone who is having suicidal thoughts?
The most important
thing you can do is to realize that the person needs help. Don’t “assume” that
they will not act on their thoughts or think to yourself that they may be
looking for attention. People who experience suicidal thoughts need help. Be
supportive, but also insistent that they seek help immediately. If someone
tells you that they’re going to kill themselves, activate the emergency medical
system (EMS) at once. Your prompt actions can save a life! Your loved one may
be mad at you initially, but they may be thankful later.
– Timothy J. Legg, PhD, PMHNP-BC